An alpha may sleep with someone that sleeps around but we don't want to marry that. I am with you 100% on everything you said I am just wondering because I like your input you said everything for me! Thank goodness the world is full of people with different view points, and a moderate amount of people who are willing to scratch below the surface. If she has had just a single partner before me, it could be hard to find out whether she is still in love. You say what happened to encouraging people to do better, but how is continuing the practice of judging people on their past a good thing? believe to be productive and positive ways to deal with these issues. I vehemently disagree with this! You will feel that you left . If a woman comes to you and displays all the attributes you look for in a woman. Depends on your age. Most of it was a hard learning lesson for me. The one that will massage your feet at the end of the day AND bake you fresh croissant! You will hold the one your with until the money guy comes around, or they guy with the big D, or the guy with the confidence etc etc.its so fake and so bad for evolution tbh. -Women also judge in choosing partners. If you express those feelings to her in a hurtful way (because they are abusive) she's gonna bail on you. Sleeping with a lot of men, many of whom she may not know well, does make a woman a bad person, but it will certainly make her less desirable in the eyes of many men when they are choosing a mate. Don't forget to follow us on social networks! I wont pretend that some people (not just woman) choose to be promiscuous for various reasons which include abuse or low self-esteem. Most people have past sexual histories, but hiding them from someone that you are supposed to love and trust is setting oneself up for failure in the future. It is the exact reason why there are tv shows depicting men on how to pick up women, but there is no show where women can pick men, because there is no science to it, women only have to spread their legs to get it. A guy friend of mine had to dump his first girlfriend in college because she kept pushing to get married and to settle down. Because the why rather than the number of men is what really should be discussed in order to better understand who this woman has been and has become. Additionally, male and female sexuality is just different. If you sleep around it shows your unstable and dont take relationships serious. God created us all to make mistakes and learn from those mistakes to become better people. 3 of the men I was seeing wanted to marry me, but they are more jealous. You know why it's toxic. In choosing a partner for a relationship, matches up character and values is very important. There is nothing wrong with your disagreement, but they way you go about it is very negative and very unnecessary. Wesley Pipes, calls out Kobe' lol you really took it there. That didnt bother me, because I dont really care. Im happy to hear this article could help you in any way to move in a better direction. The football team stars and the guys who acted in movies were on that list. You will get married to Joe. To be patient with you and Doesnt mean a man will like it, but is it really worth letting go of a good thing because of a number. Say what.. youre incel? You have more preconceptions than aporcupinehas quills. Encourage people to better themselves? So Stephan following your argument, if you would find a woman who 5-10 years ago had a gangbang and half of the town where you live had sex with her but now she is a very nice woman and has changed her values, you will embrace her and take her as your partner without having any problem or concern? Stop with the STD guise it is about an Granted, I agree it may all come from some traumatic event or maybe an ongoing psychological/sociological issue (ie lack of a father or mother etc) andIn fact, the promiscuous women did suffer from some deepissues. Women need to stop judging other women. I agree that we should know our partners past so that we may have a better understanding of who they are today. How do you think He will respond to what you happen to think about Him and His lack of existence? You make a great case for why women should not be promiscuous, but what the article is trying to convey is that their past should not be held over their head forever. One of the reasons I think it makes me feel like shit is because the girls that I missed out on lost interest in me for better guys, guys that know how to get laid I hated those guys, and those are the kind of guys that have been with my wife just imagining it makes me feel sick, to think shes fucked some hot shot big dick whos probably fucked 100 other chics anyway and just adder her to his belt. You better believe you can be loved and your are loved : ). choose the best possible man, or to be exact, provider. Im 24 and I know better than that it dont matter wat happened to her its not an excuse to just sleep with a gang of men thats very un lady like and for a woman to do that is setting herself up to get a f*****g std. LOL ! A pregnant woman or a women with an infant child on the African savannah had a far lower chance of survival if they didnt have a man to provide for her and her child and protect them from harm. He willingly suffered and took our punishment for our sin upon Himself. So its reasonable to treat number of partners as risk factor it seems. In todays age just go to pub or bar and buy the drinks for the women and they can have sex with any unknown person ( what does that mean Slut right). Whether you question it or not is irrelevant. I'm trying to learn how to differentiate but it's fucking difficult man. 6. Lots of heartache there. Thank you, Lord, for resurrecting from the dead. It means women can never have freedoms to make decisions at all. I believe is about decency. Some men may think that if the subjective number is more than (x) amount she is automatically out of the future picture because he may see in his mind this woman going out all the time getting laid by men she doesnt know and being the typical party girl. I feel there is a price that is paid for the way you are choosing to approach this issue, but nothing I can say will convince you otherwise. As ryaninfamous pointed out, women have the power to practically have sex with any man they want, whenever they want. your lover, and if people on the market for dating were products, your value We are called to Love, but how can we do that if we allow ourselves to judge and demonize others for their past decisions. Women who choose to be sluts make their beds, and must lie in them. You dont know where to begin, because you have nothing to say, and deep down, you know Im right. You cannot truly understand or know a person until you know just about everything. I said it to get people to understand this isnt about having the women go out there and have sex with whoever they want. Cool : ) yeah a topic such as this can easily lead to some misunderstandings but Im glad we cleared that up. Being forced to settle for a woman who has been ridden like the town bike, and shared her body with dozens, if not hundreds of men is very weak, and very low-standard. Ugh. They say that all men are dogs, do not want relationships, and can not commit. That should only matter! reading this I can see that you only wrote this to make yourself believe that its OK you slept with a 100 guys . I totally agree. oppressed and that some of their traditions are backwards. These men typically have low self-esteem, cannot get better, are older and desperate, or simply have no other options. 4) Past baggage (Kids, men, pictures, etc ex lovers who know her, pics or video of ex partners doing unspeakable things to your significant other, stories and reputation) I disagree with that comparison. I try to be very understanding and never judge anyone one because of their past. The number of sexual partners a woman has had does not determine what type of woman she is. Some may just love sex and wanted to explore. Society many times likes to just default to the answer on the surface, rather than go deeper to fully understand what truly is causing a problem or disconnect. We told the truth and we understood each other. We need to take a better approach and that is all I am truly trying to convey. I Think that u r bringing this up is great and it needs to be talked about more.i Think when u Get older u Think more about this things and talk about it and see that people can change and of course u go thrue life experiance different things.we r not all the same and what people do different things and shouldnt be jugded by their past. I feel like my bf doesn't love me anymore and it scares me. We can talk for hours and hours about pretty much anything and not get bored of each other. Would you marry a girl who slept around? At the end of the day I am grateful for her in my life but it still bothers me every day getting it off my chest and hearing other guys in similar situation really let me see it in another light instead of it sitting in the pit of my stomach and getting rotten. Start this quiz to find your result. If you are caught lying it can The man is going to think that the woman might not Many people and the media would have people believe that women are so open your mind to what the article is trying to say and you may start to look at things differently. You think we want you all used up. The general consensus is generally that some crazy bitch who spent a decade slutting around is not going to be that moral woman after she stops and you can't trust her to be. i must say im a hypocrite on this one. I have NEVER met a secure, balanced, confident woman who could just have sex, get up, leave, and feel happy never seeing the person again. A mess you gonna have these women out here single and lonely.. Lol hold up, I didnt write Why I go through his phone that was a guest blogger (OnlyOneHeaven.com) but I did write this article. The girl you date is not concerned about cooking for you. So, until an individual gets over their own insecurities they wont be able to accept others for who they are and where theyve been. Where is this done? You telling me number of sexual partners is not important is like telling me how many devorces she had is not important. The choices a person makes in life reflect upon that individuals character, and /everything/ is in the past, once the moment passes, so yes, how many people someone chooses to give their body to, and under what circumstances, certainly reflects upon that individual. They would always want to be with me even not wanting sex. Consider your 20s your best years is VERY subjective. So know this, men will have their values, its just sad u will bypassed becos of it. So now u, a faithful man, deal with this truth and your surroundings are people fixated on sex. Doesnt make it right, but remember, thats the flip side of a double standard. Only to then change the number 2 more times from 13 to the final number now which is 15 and me being the 16th. Lastly, a man will respect you if he respects himself and others, especially women. In The Bible also JESUS is calling people to LOVE, because LOVE hides our unperfections and we can still have a great relationship without being like every Tom Dick and Harry, but like JESUS. I had been with 100 myself. And any woman I dont care if you date women whove slept with over 20 or not. Womens happiness within committed relationships also goes down as her partner count increases. So many men end up with a woman they swear meets their standards in regards to their sexual past, but really she has done much more then he will ever know. At the end of the day we all have to decide what is most important. Not Females, you shall not fornicate. Fifth So, I conclude that it IS relevant about women If a woman had many relationships and then relationships failed, this is other thing and issue yes.. Here's a revelation: people are entitled to their own judgments. Dont say something here different from what u will o. I think men and women should be judged the same. As I've tried to read about the concept of dating a slut I have been unable to find any success stories about someone who has dated a slut long term but I have found a lot of mostly red pill stuff that has said it is a bad idea. The Student Room and The Uni Guide are both part of The Student Room Group. Personally, I think that men and women should strive to have a lower number of sexual partners but I don't think that women should try to act like men in the thinking that having numerous partners is a good thing. All in all I think monogamy is a cruel joke. 18 Reply r3l_b 4 yr. ago Be careful about judging people because you dont know all the reasons why people do the things they do. If you are a man with 3 children with 3 different mothers, there is something wrong. Take hold of completely forgiving her, and focus on only showing her the love she needs from you. Nobody likes for the woman they love to be viewed in that light. Men lie, because it increases theirs. I think you are not getting the point of this article. Yeah so shut up lol. But since sex is expensive for women, she gets to choose. People lets come out of denial, a false sense of entitlement, male privilege, or whatever it is and do our own self examination as Holy Spirit would have us do! Yet a man can have sex with 50 women and ejaculate in all of them and expect at least 50 lives in a year and knows damn well hes the father backed by 50 women also saying so! Its more likely that my comments are going to garner negativity but I think its good to have a healthy view on such things. If I am feeling someone and want to have sex, then so be it. I dont know if youre a male or female judging by your username. issuesshe is not responsible, etc. Again there is much more that can be said about this study and this topic. It's also possible she has a crazy high libido, which if you build a commited relationship, can really come in handy when you start getting older and other men are in the "dead bedroom" phase, because they wanted to marry a virgin, who happened to have a very low libido, which made it easy for them to stay a virgin. I definitely would not marry a woman who has slept around a lot. The problem that it really boils down to is that we women experience just as many urges, hardships, emotions, and whatever else that a man does yet for whatever reason we have to live by this stupid separate code. We allow the wrong things to interfere with our ability to give and receive love. It is much easier for a woman to sleep with a random man than vice versa. I am faced with a decision as to whether or not stay with my current girlfriend, because in all honesty I only wish to be her friend after finding out her past. Disagreeing is a part of life and I completely understand people will not always agree with my perspective. So, somebody who has raped a person years agoshouldnt have that counted againstthem because that isnt who they really are now? For example, if your first sexual experience is a violent one, pain could cause you to become numb sexually and emotionally. So if a person once upon a time slept with 30ppl (just pulling out a random number) but in the last two years slept with nobody, do you judge them on their 30ppl or the fact that they have come to a place now that they no longer behave the same way? I lost my virginity to a girl who had been with lots of guys before me. ?Still not got the point of it. Its about respect. 151 views, 6 likes, 8 loves, 22 comments, 4 shares, Facebook Watch Videos from Miller Memorial Baptist Church: Sunday, February 26, 2023~ Reverend. Whores will always be Whores no matter how you look at it. You slept with so many people? Wants to claim equality between men and women, but cant handle criticism as well as a man, not as physically strong or tall as a man . But be careful with your in-person reaction to your significant other's confession. I dont see how this article will have women single and lonely. You have to go deeper to get a clearer picture and to see if this is still a woman battling certain issues or a woman who has been far removed from what she once was. It was about not wanting to be holding hands or walking down the street with a female and having dudes walking by that shes slept with or the possibility of them making any comments butwhat dude can say theyve only been with a handful of women. Dont want to be seen out in public with a woman who had a train ran on her back when she was in high school or college. Men get to play while we sit at home waiting for our love? Education can do wonders! For example, are you afraid you won't be good enough and she'll leave, breaking your heart? N most of the time the dudes around you have the same type of woman. So you may want to take a deeper look in trying to understand the problem and how to better approach it. My life was so hard because of my sexual freedom so I want her life to be much easier than mine and easier would be for me to teach her to not express her sexuality and to just hold out as long as possible. You have always been a dreamer, but you've never thought that your dreams will come true. Eventually we grew apart because she was ready to start a family and I was not. I totally agree with you. Actually this research was proven by a Womens Organization! This is what society gets for sexual liberation. Its not about being flawless and perfect. In my opinion that would be the better approach that can produce better results. Maybe you feel that when she is in a relationship with you, she will be able to have sex with others because sex doesn't necessarily mean that she is in a 'serious relationship' but it does for you? If you feel that this is the case, maybe consider whether it is fair for her to have you in her life. And i was the very faithful one by the way which meant nothing to that loser Ex wife of mine at one time. In this latest study, women who have had one partner instead of two are about 5 percentage points happier in their marriages, about on a par, Wolfinger says, with the boost that possessing a four . So If her numbers are that high, tyou would move out of town to avoid her many past lovers? you may have some serious issues and I would say that its too many. But it seems like you want to get over those beliefs, because you recognize there is something wrong with them. Hope you can shed your toxic/red pill/PUA thoughts and beliefs. /Especially/ when choosing a mate. At the end of the day, its all about what works to pass on genes. I think she just slept with them because she was desperate for love, she was getting it from no-where else and probably didnt know how to get a guy without offering herself physically. No, they dont. As Oprah said (excuse me if I misquote) If you know better, do better. Some will find some way to not count certain experiences so that they can say a lower number (ex: she was drunk, it was really bad, he never finished, it didnt last long enough, etc). We know how to say nothat is intended for the knuckle-dragging Neanderthals out there who have a standard. You could be killing yourselves with every partner you take. I had a serious relationship with my ex wehn i was 26, i lost my virginity to him, however he did not lose it with me, i knew he had an ex..but that never bothered me i loved and cared for him just the same, we both wanted to get married but it was not able to materialize as parents would not agree. Women are thought of being prudent and conservative. People that respect their bodies have healthy relationships, not hookups at the club every other week. Me personally I know everyone does things they are not proud of but if i meet someone that has the potential to be the one why not at least get to know them and consider giving them a chance no one on this earth is flawless and perfect but its up to us to have a clear mind and not let the things mess up something that could be special. You can love sex without being a slut. Some women can be a virgin and have all kinds of issues due to other experiences in their life, while a woman may have once been promiscuous, turned away from that and now is in a much better place mentally and emotionally. Its not a try, its simply a fact. Its not about the sex. I see a lot of people replying to this kinda rudely, which I understand. Yall need to start doing some research and stop sleeping around. Africa, over 60,000 years ago and migrate to all parts of our planet, women had People kill me acting as if this isnt real life and in real life people do things that they may not be proud of nor can they change it. lose this person, they are exactly what you were looking for and they actually I have always been happy go lucky and respectful of myself. You still come right? pasts at all, dont have intense feelings for her. The naivete surrounding this progressivenotion about the you do? Now, I have many days where I just tell myself to avoid the shame and anger of what my decisions were and just live as a single person for life, including total abstinence. I am not against a woman having sex, I just think that it should be Personally, the number of guys dated doesnt equal number bedded. would sleep with them while single. Based on your comment I will assume you believe in GOD. Its all we have. Just know your not alone. Indeed, while the data presented in The Marriage Project's 418-person study is legitimate, experts say that the conclusions drawn from it -- especially those which cast judgement on one's sexual history and incite sentiments of slut-shaming -- may not be entirely accurate. Guess what? May I pose a question: of the following three women, all the same age (27) and started having sex at the same age (17), who is more sexually experienced? How detailed you can get depends on how much your lover can take. Good luck. What is more important than the number is why. has slept with 4 guys or 20? Im logical, confident, and independent. The fact of the matter is what one decides to do with their body is their decision and they should not be judged by imperfect perfect people based on that decision. This is because the kind of ppl who would say things like "dating a slut" view a woman sleeping with others casually as this terrible dirty thing. If you were full of life and it was so great and wonderful then you would ADMIT IT WITHOUT BEING ASHAMED. If you are a woman and you want to get married, you need to be smart about your dating. 2) men and women are wired differently. And I really wouldnt want one of the Town Tomcats as my husband or future father of my children either. Who she was it not always who she is now. In my eyes it matters is someone has had a decent approach to love and sex. Not to mention her self-esteem would of been shattered. The experiences you're concerned about are, well, XP, and in that regard she's a high-level operator. Rest 4-5 wait for. People just want different things sometimes. I dont thing something is wrong with a man who does not like the idea of competing with a womans past. Regardless of what it was, it shouldnt matter. The whole premise of this article is misguided. Im in it right now. Would you still judge her as nothing more than a whore or was she simply a victim of a horrible act and didnt know or wasnt able to get the help to properly handle it. You can be with a woman who only tells you she only slept with 3 guys when in reality you may have to add a 0, or two 0s. She loves you, and regardless of how anybody else wants to view her, it only matters how you view her. On the other hand. Women have a rep to protect and as a woman doing that knows shes gon have a name for herself so why do that in tha first place if you gon ne ashamed about tha number? Men and women are different, in case you hadnt noticed. Women have the choice to say, yup im gonna let this guy inside me. This method only works Individuals must and should always attend to their home garden and not others. idc if im broke or rich or how your feel in a bed room or how i look its my intellect that should make u be willing to be with me or my compassion or my intentive attitude towards you when a women has a mutiple relations with different men she has a lot of comparision to the man she is involved with and then women wonder why the are single mothers? Plenty of respectable women do not live their youths as sluts, and it is THESE women who deserve our time, investment, and energies; not the sluts. I guess it really doesnt matter. Society is emotionally drained because of this ignorant behavior. Not wanting a woman with a dicey past doesnt make a man some self righteous, hypocritical, judgmental monster. One would have to define perfect first. How many people have you slept with, Neighbor? 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